Friday, March 7, 2008

Makeout Party USA

The topic of kissing came up recently between myself and Tiffany Oliver. We were studying for Physiology at the Alpena public library, so of course our minds wandered. It was a brief part of the conversation, but got me to thinking; what is the big deal?

It's more the significance, the meaning, the purpose behind a kiss (and I mean lip on lip action, not a peck on the cheek); the physical act itself isn't that important. Anyone can go out and kiss someone, just like anyone can go and get married this instant; it's inconsequential if there's nothing behind it.
Handshakes were brought up; why isn't that a big deal? Think about who you'd shake hands with; an old friend, someone you just met, a customer you've just dealt with. Pretty much anybody. You could vow to shake hands with everyone you ever come in contact with. All a handshake means is that you recognize that another person is there, or that you're extending a greeting or a good-bye.
Now, would you kiss everyone you met? No, but why not? A kiss has a much deeper meaning behind it than just hello or good-bye. It's showing that you really like someone; hopefully, that you love them. It should have more meaning to it than today's cliche fast and hot and doomed relationships give it (but that's a talk for another day).

I think it's something that should be reserved for a meaningful relationship. I'm not sure how many people know this about me, but I have yet to kiss anyone. I'm not saying nobody would be surprised by that; I just don't advertise it much. Don't think that I'm ashamed of that fact; I'm actually very pleased with it. Some people may find this disturbing; it's just one of those things you're supposed to do in life, right? Have to have kissed someone, gotten drunk, had sex. It's what Americans are supposed to do, isnt it? I don't buy that; totally bunk, it I do say so myself.
One reason I don't bring it up is because I think it might make some people feel bad; I just have high standards in some aspects of my life, and don't want anyone to feel bad in comparison. I'm not about to start a crusade, or write books about it, because that's not what I'm about. I don't want to be 'that dude who won't kiss chicks' and have people swear off girls on account of my being able to; please don't set standards by what I've done, or not done. Live by what God wants.
I guess I'm just really happy that I have something really pure and innocent to (God-willing) give to my future wife (seriously, I only want to ever kiss the one I'm meant to be with. I hope that happens). There are some parts of my life I'm not too proud of; mistakes have been made, but not that one.

It's just nice to think that one day I'll be able to share my first kiss with someone that I truly love, and have it be all hers. Not some chick's that I thought was cute at camp, not a random drunken makeout session's, but hers. I pray all the time that this will be the case, and thank God that it still has the chance to happen some day.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

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